my nickname is Booster and I’m writing this blog to share my stories with you, and possibly help you with creating the lifestyle you want. At this point, I still need to improve myself a lot. I also know I should always try to get better. However, I have had some insights in life, and I now feel like sharing those to help you.

Now you might be asking, what help could I give you? It’s true, I’m not a master in any of these topics. With 20 years of life experience, chances are big that I am less experienced than you are. On top of that, I’m dutch, so maybe I’ll make weird sentences or use strange words. But all of that doesn’t matter when thinking of the following:

- I’ve been struggling with these areas for a big part of my life. I’m a bit overweight, got injuries at soccer a lot. Never had a lot of money, just had to do it with the money I got from working. And I never had slept with, or even kissed a girl, until I was 19 years old. But right now, I have studied a lot of my problems and my life is becoming the life I want. In other words, I have experienced the problems, but also the solutions.

- Another big advantage you’ll get out of this blog is the ability to share stories. While I’m telling my stories, you might be able to relate to them in some way. However, I can only help and relate to you, if YOU also make comments on my posts.

This is my first blog-post, and I hope you are intrigued by what I can offer you. Soon you’ll find more posts on this blog about anything you might be struggling with. Suggestions are welcome as well.

I hope to see you soon!

Booster

The Illusion Of Power

For the first example of the bully, yes you are indeed out alpha-ing him but it’s in a smarter less obvious way. You see with the The Illusion of Power it doesn’t have to stop there, you can keep applying it and possibly turn him into a wing and bring him into your world. I realize that this is a tough concept to understand because this “IOP (Illusion of power)” can be looked at from many different angles and its meaning can go very deep. To help everyone understand the IOP I will give a few more examples.

In the first example it just so happened that you would need to out alpha the bully in order to neutralize him, but to show more meaning to the IOP, let me explain how you would turn that bully into a friend or wingman. Once you give him a few pointers or even introduce him to one of your girls and he gets a taste of success, ask HIM for advice. Mention that you had a chat with a few of your girls and they all were talking about how they found his (the bully) macho personality attractive and that’s one aspect that your lacking on with women….EVEN THOUGH you may know the answers to what you are asking, it’s okay, that’s the point of all this, it’s to give him the IOP and make him think that he’s better than you, when really he’s not.

Let me explain another example of IOP from a work stand point. Let’s say a Co-Worker is trying to get you fired because he or she may want more hours at work, or the two of you don’t see eye to eye. Most people would get frustrated and let emotions get to them and cause them to make a scene and get themselves in trouble. Now what if instead of freaking out or cracking under pressure, you give that Co-worker that Illusion of Power over you by letting him take credit for a small portion of your work. Depending what you do for work this can change, so for this example let’s say you work at a restaurant, tell your Co-worker that they’ve worked hard and deserve some time to relax so you offer up your garbage duty to them so they can have a bit of a break from the kitchen, in that time they are gone you can now either talk with your boss about more shifts or asking your boss if there’s anything they need to be done to make their day easier. This will build a stronger connection between you and your boss if you can show them that they can count on you. Let’s say your Co-worker rejects your offer, simply just start build a connection with your boss by doing more favors or extra work for them. Say you start to move up in the company, put in a few good words for your co-worker that you didn’t see eye-to-eye with. Remember, this isn’t to get back at others, its to make your life better and helping others along the way. This is a very basic example but once you understand the IOP you can make it work for you in any situation.

The Illusion Of Power can also be used when interacting with your target. How you may ask? Well you can simply tell the girl you are gaming that you can tell that she is a tough, strong minded woman and any guy underestimating her is a fool. You are in a sense building up her ego and making her feel special or better than others (IOP), but you still hold all the cards in this situation. As you all know women think with emotions more than men, so in a way … you’re controlling what emotions she is going to feel which makes you the one with the power in this interaction. You see we are all in control of our lives; we have to be the ones that direct where things go and how everything will play out.

There is a small aspect from the IOP that you must be careful about, by always feeling in control of how your life will play out the sense of power you may have might get to your head if you have the wrong intentions, and you yourself will have a false IOP. Which will cause more harm than good, remember this is a mind set, to have a strong inner game you must understand how valuable life is and what the world has to offer and see the IOP as a way to bring more positivity into your life.

If you can give someone the illusion that they have power over you, when in reality they don’t, then it is YOU who has the real power to control how your life will play out and how others will fit into your world.

I don’t want people to see this as a technique to manipulate others, but as a way to take negativity away from your life and transform it positive growth for you and others.

I break down the Illusion Of Power more if it is still confusing. I hope that this post can help you understand a different perspective of life.

Your Friend,

-Love Gauge

A nice breakdown on how to use this. I’m still at the start with it, but when I put it to work, I can see others having the IOP. Sometimes it makes me look a bit silly, but I get the things I want out of it. Just a little more practice should overcome this and I know that everyone can use this.

today I wanted to share with you a quick and simple breathing technique. In just a few seconds you will feel more awake and alive again. The technique is short, so this post won’t take long at all either

Put yourself in a relaxed position, wether your lying on the couch, sitting in a chair or just standing outside. When your body is relaxed, take a deep breath. Hold this breath and after a second or two, without exhaling, inhale again, as much as possible. A few seconds later, you still don’t exhale, but you inhale as much air as you can again. Your lungs should be filled completely right now. Hold your breath for a few seconds, then exhale. After this you should feel completely relaxed, but also with more energy.

This is a simple technique, others will be shared in the future. Just 3 inhalations and after that you exhale. I hope it helps you on days you’re feeling a bit down!

The Illusion Of Power

Hey everyone, I thought I just like to share a new mind technique that I’ve come up with over the last month of watching human patterns. I title this …. The Illusion Of Power… it is a strong technique that I have come up with to help you avoid or get around people that give you a hard time. This method is powerful and could be used for the wrong reason but I hope everyone will be wise and be able to use this to help them in life.

If you understand the human mind then you will already have a step ahead because you will understand that people feed of others. If someone is being mean to you or just giving you a hard time because of your success with women or any other aspect of life, the best way to take them out of the picture is to join them. What I mean by this is that if you can give someone the illusion that they have power or leverage over you, when in reality they don’t, you will be able to make them think and do what you like. Let me explain, when playing a game of chess or checkers, the point of the game is to advance your pawns and pieces to eliminate your opponent, a good chess player will “give” up their pawns or higher level pieces to their opponent in order to advance and ultimately check mate the opponent. The Opponent (if not a smart player) will see these open chess pieces and take them and think that he or she is “winning” or getting further in the game when in reality, they’re falling for your trap.

So now to translate that back to your daily life, lets say a guy is busting your balls because you always have women around you. He is doing this because he is jealous or threatened by you, so instead of getting upset or trying to “out alpha” him, your going to give him a bit of advice. For instance, tell him that you see potential in him and if he shows less effort when speaking to women then he will have more success. In his mind he will think that he just uncovered the secret with being successful with women, when really thats only 5% of what he should do. Understand? He thinks now that he can be as successful as you and now has “power” over you because you told him a serect, when really you have all the leverage and your pretty much stringing him along, which will give you the real “power” over him and ultimately make him think the way you want him to think.

Starting to understand? This is just one example of how to use this Illusion Of Power. You can interpret and incorporate this into other aspects of your life. Some other examples of how you can use this is getting back with your old Ex, getting more hours at work, getting a promotion, and so on and so forth. The possibilities are endless here.

One thing I noticed with this is that if you don’t understand the human mind of basic concept of reality then this method will not work as strongly as you may hope or it may cause you to do stupid things. If you have any other question on this feel free to ask, I will gladly help. I started noticed this and developing this last month, I haven’t heard or read anything on this so im pretty sure im not taking credit for someone else’s work. Hopefully this can be helpful to you and you understand the point I am trying to get across.

Good Luck,

-Love Gauge

Thanks LG for the info. The 2nd part will be up in a few days. In here Love Gauge explains in more detail how to use this and also he gives some examples.

To make clear to you what I mean with gossip, I found a dictionary definition: idle talk, usually about other people’s private lives, esp. of a disapproving or malicious nature. This kind of talk will give the speaker power over the victim. However, in my eyes, the speaker also tries to get attention or approval from the listener by telling bad things about people behind their backs. It’s ok to chat about who’s in love and who kissed who, if you feel like doing that. But sometimes you just got to know where the line is.

Speaking gossip is in my point of view a DLV (demonstration of lower value). Though you have something interesting to tell, you harm someone by telling it. This is socially not accepted. It also means that all the interesting things you have, are actually things that didn’t even happen to yourself. On the other hand, being able to tell things about yourself is a DHV (demonstration of higher value).

So, here’s an example. Consider two people, Tim and Susan. They’ve been in love for some time now. I’ll give you two options and you can choose what you’ll tell. One day you walk up to their house and you see them having dirty sex with a goat! What would you tell? I’d leave out the goat, and probably the dirty too, depending on who I’m talking with. If you’re telling it to mutual friends you can tell more than when you’re telling it to someone not so familiar.

The reason kino is so important may not be clear to everyone. However, if you consider the fact that around 80% or more of all communication between two people is non-verbal (kino being on the non-verbal side), you might understand this. Add to this, the fact that kino creates comfort. If someone touches you it might feel uncomfortable because you aren’t used to this kind of touching. But touch in general is a sign of people being comfortable with each other. You don’t want to kiss a woman who’s been sitting on the other side of the table all night long. Since you haven’t touched her yet, suddenly kissing her would be very awkward. If you can build kino during your conversation the kiss will come natural.

The first time you can use kino is before you have even started your conversation. When you’re standing behind someone you might tap them on the shoulder. However, this is not subtle and it won’t have a good effect when you’re doing this on a woman. The key with kino is to use light touches, preferably short, but not too short. If you are standing behind a woman, it’s best not to stand directly behind her, but more in an angle. So just a bit to her right or to her left. For example you’re standing to her right. Now you can ask for her attention in a few ways. You might lightly put your hand on her shoulders and guide her to turn to you. This should be a guiding touch to get her turning in the right direction, but you shouldn’t really pull her towards you. This one you could do with the palm of your hand on her shoulder. You can also touch her arm. If you’re doing this, while standing on her right, the best way to do this is to use the back of your hand and lightly guide her to turn to you. Two or three fingers should be enough. From the front it is a bit harder to initiate kino from the start, but it isn’t needed for attention, so a light touch with the palm of your hand on her arm just above her elbow should be enough.

When you’ve initiated conversation, the real fun begins. You’ll want her to notice you are there all the time, but you don’t want to be intimidating. This, however, isn’t harmful for your kino at all. Instead of standing in front of her and speaking to her face directly, you’ll go stand next to her and look in the same direction, with just a small angle towards her. This angle would normally be around 30 degrees, but if it’s really crowded and you have to stand close then it’s ok to face her almost directly. The most important thing while talking is gesturing. It brings life to the conversation, but it also gives you an excuse to touch someone. If you suddenly touch someone on the arm it’s weird. If you’re gesturing all the time, you’re just touching her to emphasize something or to get her attention again.

In the position when you’re standing next to her you’ll very easily be able to put your hand on her back. This is a natural position and you can lightly guide her to look somewhere, while pointing with your other arm. I usually put my hand on their lower back, as touching her butt in this position is a bit too sexual. When standing in front of her I’ll use other forms of kino. If we’re really close to each other in a club, then I sometimes put one hand on their hips. However, if we’re standing a bit further apart I’ll gesture and touch their arms. I once did very short touches, like milliseconds or something, but this was weird. You want light touches, but not short ones. If you can touch her on the arm to emphasize something, this should be at least the length of what you want her to focus on. The first times this may be a second, later in the conversation this touch can be longer each time.

I hope I’ve been able to teach you some things about kino with this article. When doing kino there’s only two things you should keep in mind. Always keep your touches light and in a guiding kind of way. And never look where you touch, as that makes the touch come across as unnatural and thus intimidating. Have fun trying some things out with this and keep it fun!

When trying to lose weight, only two things are of major influence. The first one is: how much do you eat, e.g. the amount of calories you consume. The second one is how much you exercise/work out, the total amount of calories you burn. Both of those are things you decide about.Whenever you want to lose weight, all you have to do is consume less calories or work out significantly more.

This however doesn’t mean you should go on a crash diet. Your body has some back-up mechanisms, which will eventually make it adapt to the low calorie uptake, resulting in a lower amount of food needed for the same amount of uptake of calories. Your body is simply finding ways to be more effective. Therefore it might help to suddenly eat less. But maintaining an extremely low calorie diet is very hard to achieve and in the end it is counterproductive.

Dividing your meals on a lot of small ones won’t help either. It’s all about the amount you take in per day. If you take more meals, you are more likely to eat more. If there’s anything you want to do, it would be skipping meals. If you do this regularly (and not with high and low peaks) you can lose some weight while maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

While skipping meals, there are a few options. My advice would be to stick to your breakfast (especially when you’re in school, because you’ll need to be fit to learn). The breakfast forms the basis of the day. You’ll stay hungry for the entire day when you don’t eat it (so you eat more on your lunch and diner). This is because you probably didn’t eat for 12-18 hours between diner and the next lunch However, if you take the breakfast, but after that skip the lunch, your meals will be better divided. There’s one thing I need to warn you about though. If you keep on skipping lunch daily, your body will adapt again. So do it moderately and don’t suddenly start on it skipping lunch daily. This will work the first few weeks, but after that you’ll have trouble taking it one step further.

The last thing I want to mention are the drinks you take. If you eat less, you can satisfy your hunger by drinking more. Drinking at least 2 liters of water per day is a healthy standard. You’re body will store less water, so you actually lose weight (though you’ll need to visit the toilet a bit more often in the beginning). Other drinks than water will contain calories most likely. In drinks they easily add up, so therefore sodas, alcoholic drinks and such aren’t good for losing weight.

Next week I’ll try to write an article about the effects of alcohol and coffee on losing weight. I’ll see you soon!

So here’s the deal. I’ve gotten a bit rusty lately, but last week I had the perfect example in front of me. I went out with a guy I met that day (coincidence) and he showed me again what it means to have fun going out. This guy just talked to everyone without any problem at all. He was making fun of people, but he could be genuinely interested as well. He has a girlfriend, but there were at least 3 chicks that night he could have pulled. The thing is, when he talked to a girl, he would tease her a bit from the start. He made her know from the start that he was about fun and not taking anyone too seriously.
Now, if you want to go without tactics and all, just make sure your energetic (have good nightrest and training) and talk to have fun. I have been tired lately, which made it impossible for me to bring fun to a party. If you can bring fun to a party, you will receive fun. And with giving and receiving fun, along comes attention. You will talk to people, but others around you will notice that you are the source of fun and want to talk to you as well. Now, if those people are guys, that’s ok. Just as long as they don’t steal those chicks away from you, but instead add to the fun, you should even reward them by giving them attention and possibly setting them up with girls that you have no or less interest in. Have them talking to those girls, so you can make the guys, but also those girls happy. Once you’ve isolated your target after a good night of fun there should be no problem in kissing her.

That’s my purpose again and I’m looking forward to the weeks to come when I can meet lots of new and interesting people again. There’s only one rule to truly live by when going out: Make some girls HAPPY!

One of the main reasons I’m writing this article is because both Lance and Dale mentioned something very important in my opinion. While Lance was talking about body language, he mentioned that taking a confident body posture, would also make you feel confident. After that he gave a specific example with the emotion happiness and the expression of that emotion by smiling. Later that day, I was listening to Dale Carnegie, he mentioned the same example of smiling. This is what both of these guys were telling me to do: Just put on a smile for 30 seconds and notice how you feel afterwards. I suggest you try it now as well, I’ll wait here … 30 seconds should be enough … so, you’re done now? I bet you’re feeling a little more happy right now!

The common thought is that you will first experience an emotion in your mind and after that you will express this emotion by your facial expression. However, this small experiment shows it’s possible to turn that order around. And actually, you can do that with a lot of emotions and feelings. Try a sad, angry, proud or annoyed face, and you will see it works as well. If you think you can’t make these faces, just force yourself to do it.

Like Lance was explaining, this also works with confidence. Try to take a confident stance. Set your feet shoulder-wide apart. Shift your weight to one leg, make sure your body forms a straight line up to your shoulders, put your other foot on a ninety degree angle. Relax your shoulders, let them fall backwards. Don’t be fidgetting with your fingers, if you have problems not to do this then just lay your thumb on your index and middlefinger.

I’ll have more on confident body language later on, but for now just keep your facial expression happy and your body language confident. Smile to everyone and let’s make this happier world!

- Laying in bed several hours before you finally get to sleep

- Short nights, followed by long days

- Small naps, or even long ones, during day time

- Tired feeling after waking up

These all can happen to you every once in a while, but what if you get this every day? People with chronic sleep deprivation tend to work less efficiently, be less social and also become overweight. Your body should have it’s rest sometimes.

Sleeping problems can be caused by several things. When you tend to sleep later at night, but getting up at normal times, then you would probably get tired. The first time you try to solve this with coffee, but a few months later you are a caffeine addict. So, why are you sleeping later? You might go out to party. You will probably get home late, possibly drunk as well. Though you think alcohol makes you sleep better, this actually isn’t the case. It’s easy to get to sleep with alcohol in your body, but your sleep is restless and you’re body has to work hard to remove all the alcohol. You’ll wake up tired and you’re gonna take your coffee to feel awake.

When you feel tired during day time, you might somewhere see a chance to take a small nap. At first this is 15 minutes, but as you get more used to daytime naps, they become longer each time. Why? Because you are used to having daytime naps. But when you should go to sleep, you’ve already had a bit of sleep in the daytime. So you just stay awake a little longer. But this night you’ve only had a few hours of sleep, the hours in the daytime are already forgotten and you need a new nap. This circle keeps going on and on, and therefore your nights are getting too short.

Another factor that’s also playing a key role in this is stress. I often feel stressed or have a lot of thoughts going through my mind. Watching tv or using the computer, just before going to sleep leaves your brains with a lot of information to handle. Therefore, when I go to bed, I might stay awake for several hours before I can get to sleep. Ideally, you should stop watching tv one hour before you go to bed.

The stress you have can be caused by several things. Relationship problems or an single-sided affection, money or health issues and many more things. Of course you can’t always help this, but try to think as positive as you can.

One last thing is the location and use of your bed. If you do all kinds of stuff on your bed, you might not associate this with sleeping. In your bedroom you should only sleep, try to do other stuff (like reading or surfing on the internet) in different locations. Your bed is to be used for sleeping and sex only, not for all kinds of fancy stuff you do when you’re awake.

I hope that this helps you a bit. Try to get a regular sleeping pattern and you should be fine. Don’t forget to have fun and if you have any stress factors, try to talk about them and solve them.

Talk soon,

Booster