In the seduction community people have started to focus more and more on kino escalation lately. Kino stands for kinesthetic touch, thus meaning all forms of touching someone. Examples of kino are holding hands and kissing. However, these are the forms of kino you will most likely experience after being with a girl for a little longer. This article is about the lowest steps on the ladder of kino escalation, at the start of your conversation, or even before that!

The reason kino is so important may not be clear to everyone. However, if you consider the fact that around 80% or more of all communication between two people is non-verbal (kino being on the non-verbal side), you might understand this. Add to this, the fact that kino creates comfort. If someone touches you it might feel uncomfortable because you aren’t used to this kind of touching. But touch in general is a sign of people being comfortable with each other. You don’t want to kiss a woman who’s been sitting on the other side of the table all night long. Since you haven’t touched her yet, suddenly kissing her would be very awkward. If you can build kino during your conversation the kiss will come natural.

The first time you can use kino is before you have even started your conversation. When you’re standing behind someone you might tap them on the shoulder. However, this is not subtle and it won’t have a good effect when you’re doing this on a woman. The key with kino is to use light touches, preferably short, but not too short. If you are standing behind a woman, it’s best not to stand directly behind her, but more in an angle. So just a bit to her right or to her left. For example you’re standing to her right. Now you can ask for her attention in a few ways. You might lightly put your hand on her shoulders and guide her to turn to you. This should be a guiding touch to get her turning in the right direction, but you shouldn’t really pull her towards you. This one you could do with the palm of your hand on her shoulder. You can also touch her arm. If you’re doing this, while standing on her right, the best way to do this is to use the back of your hand and lightly guide her to turn to you. Two or three fingers should be enough. From the front it is a bit harder to initiate kino from the start, but it isn’t needed for attention, so a light touch with the palm of your hand on her arm just above her elbow should be enough.

When you’ve initiated conversation, the real fun begins. You’ll want her to notice you are there all the time, but you don’t want to be intimidating. This, however, isn’t harmful for your kino at all. Instead of standing in front of her and speaking to her face directly, you’ll go stand next to her and look in the same direction, with just a small angle towards her. This angle would normally be around 30 degrees, but if it’s really crowded and you have to stand close then it’s ok to face her almost directly. The most important thing while talking is gesturing. It brings life to the conversation, but it also gives you an excuse to touch someone. If you suddenly touch someone on the arm it’s weird. If you’re gesturing all the time, you’re just touching her to emphasize something or to get her attention again.

In the position when you’re standing next to her you’ll very easily be able to put your hand on her back. This is a natural position and you can lightly guide her to look somewhere, while pointing with your other arm. I usually put my hand on their lower back, as touching her butt in this position is a bit too sexual. When standing in front of her I’ll use other forms of kino. If we’re really close to each other in a club, then I sometimes put one hand on their hips. However, if we’re standing a bit further apart I’ll gesture and touch their arms. I once did very short touches, like milliseconds or something, but this was weird. You want light touches, but not short ones. If you can touch her on the arm to emphasize something, this should be at least the length of what you want her to focus on. The first times this may be a second, later in the conversation this touch can be longer each time.

I hope I’ve been able to teach you some things about kino with this article. When doing kino there’s only two things you should keep in mind. Always keep your touches light and in a guiding kind of way. And never look where you touch, as that makes the touch come across as unnatural and thus intimidating. Have fun trying some things out with this and keep it fun!